1. Your once ever so organised life would most times be a total mess. Let me explain. How can you keep a house and a toddler(s) clean 24/7? How? Either one or both's gotta give. As you are tidying up it's getting messed up at the very moment. Sometimes I'm arranging and the little one is happy helping mummy out by scattering everything. And when you turn at her in total exasperation she gives you her toothless smile. That smile gets me everytime. I end up picking her up and other times, with clothes strewn all over the place, we just lay on them and goof around. Clean up can wait. My baby is fast growing.
2. You will realize you could be very creative than you ever gave yourself credit for. Your imaginative ability also pikes up. Come on, you've got to see 'Captain America' standing by the kitchen door and hear an airplane the moment you kiss goodnight (in a bid to get you not to leave)
3. You will know the favourite nursery rhymes by heart. You just have to. They are on constant replay. Sometimes you want to scream for the channel to be changed but you 'smile' instead and 'happily' sing along. Did I 'say' smile? Well something more like flashing your teeth. Bearing in mind that what is #1 hit today never makes it into the next week. Queen Bey got nothing on them.
4. Your little one(s) will try your patience. Like REALLY try your patience. I will leave that right here.
5. Staying at home doesn't mean you got all the free time. You work round the clock, no opening or closing hours. Your break time, when they let you, becomes a trip to the bathroom. Peeing becomes such a luxury. You ain't even 5 seconds in there and there's a banging at the door with them yelling, "mummy, mummy". At that moment, they remember they too had been meaning to pee. I no longer bother to lock the door. I can have all the company. Other times you're running through the day on an hour's sleep. Your house, a chaotic mess. One minute your kitchen is spik and span, next minute gets you wondering how a little kid can work up so much dishes. Forget all those picture perfect homes your friends put up on the gram. It was taken the very moment it was cleaned up. This here, is the real deal.
6. You will not always be appreciated. Read it again. And again. Good. Especially if you are always on your feelings. And that also extends to your partner. Don't expect the roof top to be blown over in praises. Remember though, not to take each other for granted. But hey, anytime your little one says, " 'kank' you mummy" without prompting, it beats the feeling of having won a jackpot (won't mind winning a jackpot though)
7. It does get lonely. You begin to wonder where your grown up days went to, where your friends went to and how you no longer have anyone to talk grown up with. Sometimes it gets to the point you run out of ideas on what to cook or wear. Bad hair days turns to bad hair weeks. Your once always gorgeous nails becomes nothing to write home about. But don't be hard on yourself. It will pass.
8. Find yourself. Half way or all the way. In fact, anyway. You need to have something besides motherhood to do. ANYTHING. Something to give you a sense of worth, of being able to contribute. Improve on your skills. Acquire a skill. Learn an instrument or a new language. Start a YouTube channel. Blog like yours sincerely. Just do something. Find somewhere you can hide and get away from it all. Whatever it is just forget politics. That stuff can only get at your already stressed self. Who needs that? Besides, the only thing you might notice about the news would probably be the newscaster's make-up. How horrible or nice it is. How that contour was just totally unnecessary. Why? You ask. Because no 2 year old would let you listen to any news save the one they are reporting.
9. Being a Stay At Home Mum is a ministry. Something of a calling. Sometimes elective, other times compulsory. Whichever you fall into, embrace it with love and be happy with your job. They won't be babies for long. And always remember, the pasture isn't greener on the other side of motherhood and you are in no competition with anyone.
May we all receive the grace to be the godly mums we should be.
Are you a SAHM? Do share your experience.
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